Discernment counselling is a process that assists couples “on the brink” of separation or divorce, (meaning one partner is seriously considering separation or divorce and one partner wants to save the marriage) to gain clarity and confidence about how to move forward. Appropriate for both couples that have never been formally married, but have a marriage-like commitment, as well as those who are legally married, discernment counselling is not about fixing the problems, but rather about exploring possible responses to them.
Three paths are explored: Path 1 is keeping things as they are or maintaining the status quo. Path 2 is separation or divorce. Path 3 is a commitment to 6 months of marital therapy with divorce off the table to see if the problems can be fixed. At the end of the 6 months of path three, the divorce possibility can be reconsidered.
Discernment counselling is about identifying what happened in the marriage to get it to the place where separation or divorce is a possibility and what would need to happen to repair the relationship to the place where the love is alive and well.
This is a short-term process. When you book a discernment counselling session you are only committing to one session at a time. If you choose to return, there is an option of doing up to five sessions. The first session is two hours in length and subsequent sessions are usually an hour and a half. The structure is a mixture of time together as a couple and time individually spent with the counsellor.
One of the benefits of Discernment counselling is that even if your marriage ends you will be leaving your relationship with a greater understanding of what happened and how to avoid these same issues in future relationships. As well, discernment counselling will offer you support to shift into a collaborative separation if path 2 is the final outcome. And of course, Dialogue and Resolution Services can refer you to qualified professionals to meet your needs, regardless of which path you and your partner decide to take.
Check if your extended medical or employment benefits cover service with a Registered Clinical Counsellor. If so, you may be able to get Discernment Counselling with us at no cost.
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